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Is love really complicated ?
Excuse me as I begin the entry with shameless reminder. Check your calendars people, guess what day it is next tuesday! Haha.
I feel so random and once again, I am mis-using my blog to kill sometime so that I won’t have to start on the dreaded physics assignment, language arts task 3 and language arts essential question for post modernism and/or feminism.
I have changed my blog template, again. But aside from stating the obvious, I must also add that this template isn’t original. I feel obliged to credit Nicole because it was she who sent me her own html for me to use and edit. I prefer her template because it is much more simple and convenient to maintain. So for those of you out there who visit both her and my blog and are thinking, these two templates are similar, it’s because they are! Haha. I have no idea where my inspiration for the picture came from; it was probably some random collage of weird images that popped into my mind when I was searching around for pictures to use to create a template. It looks weird in a nice way, doesn’t it? Haha.
I was reading my junior’s blog, no names shall be mentioned, and it dawned upon me how many teenagers life are actually plagued by love. I feel so sad for those who are currently in love but are stuck in limbo either because of an unwilling party or because of uncertainties that arise when you start to question if you really should get into a relationship with the person or not. It seems like a rather mind boggling phenomenon that takes prestige over a person’s thoughts for the next few days/weeks/months. Being really bad with the advice, I guess as a friend and a senior, all I can do is to lend my support. I don’t really fancy giving advice because more often than not, they have a higher chance of creating a negative effect.
I often question why is love such a complicated process. As once said by a friend of mine, when in love, you feel for the person without reason to support why you love him or her. Or to better phrase it, it basically means that when you are in love, there is no explanation on why you love that person. If you love someone, you just love someone damn it! That, by definition itself, seems simple enough yes? I don’t really get why people out there are going on and on about how love is a cruel thing and that we should all abstain from it and stay spinsters or bachelors for the rest of lives, enjoying the solitary lives that we have sculptured for ourselves. Life is about risk no? I believe that love is the same. You won’t truly know if you love someone and vice versa if you don’t give it a damn bloody shot!
However, even though I believe that love itself is simple, the whole process of getting into a relationship may be more complicated. Relationships seem to be the hottest must have for a really long time. People tend to fear falling in love again after a horrible break up. Of course, I am speaking from my point of view, and personally, I have never suffered a tragic breakup before, unlike those that people so often hear about. But personally, I feel that when experiencing a horrible breakup, it would mean that there wasn’t even a relationship to begin with. For me, a relationship should be something in which both parties are to be as transparent as possible. Communication is the key! Haha. With this plain logic in mind, it would thus clearly show whether or not you are in a relationship that will last or not. It will thus also not come as such big a blow when one party suggests for a break up, because the latter would probably see it coming. Depression is something that will still be felt, but at least there will be less suicidal cases or melodrama for the world to see. Of course, there are always exceptional cases around, but I will leave them to deal with it on their own yes.
By the way, love isn’t obsession. When in love, I believe there is the ability to draw a fine line between relationships and other issues of life that occurs around you. Your parents are in love, do they place importance on their own relationship over you? There is mutual understanding in love, and it definitely doesn’t mean devoting your 24/7 to someone. You can still go out with your friends and love someone. You can still tell your partner that you want to spend some time doing things with your peers and still love him/her. It doesn’t mean that when in love, it is a given that you have to sacrifice everything for your partner. I don’t believe people in a relationship circle their lives solely around their partners and their partners alone. There may be some who do, but who are we to stereotype.
I’m not trying to be a shrink here or anything, but just simply voicing my opinion about all these teenage angst around us nowadays. If it was not meant to be, than it wasn’t meant to be. Let it go, move on! What would be sadder than seeing someone breakup would be the inability of the person to recover from the fall and move on.
farcical-rants - 7:30 pm - Wednesday, March 01, 2006
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